Wah! Feedback!

A bit of a rambling (maybe) today. I have been contemplating a lot today and seem to be at the back end of the day seemingly having not achieved much - have you been there? seem to be busy all day but nothing seems to have changed. Hey ho!

Owen was at the dentist today and having picked him from school early (about 1300hrs) we drove over to leeds dental hospital for his 1400hrs appointment and next round of treatment (what a brave boy, I think it hurts me more than him! sob sob).

Anyway today my thoughts have been about why I like and love my friends and family and seem to have instant chemistry with them??? I find that these friends are instantly in the category of being able to sit down with them, with no agenda, and perhaps not even saying anything too meaningful, but yet it seems to be worthwhile and great and chilled out!

Whats that about?

Well I think I have formed an answer, well for me anyway. There seems to be meaningful feedback from these people. Another description would be kindred spirits, which I think means spirits that are interlinked or similar. Needless to say - spirit is used in the loosest possible sense.

Let me expand ... As I evaluate the friends I have had and do have, for me they have, to a greater or lesser degree, been based on a deep feedback. Nope im still not explaining am I?! I mean it feels like we are communicating in many more ways than simply verbal. Heart to heart. Soul to soul. It means we are sensitive to each others needs on some level, somtimes shallow, sometimes something with considerable depth.

I love to probe about where someone is at and ask questions like; what are you passionate about? what turns you on? do you like your work? Is life great for you? that type of thing and quite honestly the response is piss poor (sorry mum and dad for swearing) I meant crap! he he

Furthermore, I went to a business networking event last evening and I spoke to a guy who I speak to regularly at this particular event and I was wondering why I am kind of always wanting to talk to him and its because he gives me genuine feedback to my questions and discussions. He has a level of honesty that is refreshing. He is the first competitor I get on a storm with. All the others at the event are described in the next paragraph!

So many people live on planet weather, planet work, planet holiday, planet shopping, planet latest car etc etc. I, quite frankly can not bear it and all i want to talk about is what makes you tick? what is it you want to happen in your life? what is it you are doing to improve your normal life? where are you looking for happiness? And the answer? Well sometimes it is complete tosh (also called a word that begins with 'b' and ends in 'it') sometimes the words are right but there is no conviction, genuiness or soul about the statement and just sometimes the words and feeling are spot on. I call this finding someone who gives feedback, that make me go WAH! because its rare. I believe this answer is found on the inside of us. Facing our fears and stopping lying to ourselves that everything is ok and this is our lot in life.

The friends and family I have today, all have this feedback gene and I so appreciate being able to share those times with them. With family it comes much more naturally as we have had to be honest with them (whether we like it or not). Again a great opportunity lies in front of us and rest assured the opportunity to put this honesty to the test will come shortly after you finish reading this article and certainly within 24hrs.

Not sure I have much more to say tonight, other than: be honest and know that if your honesty is challenged you can handle the outcome (of being honest and giving feedback) 100%.

Successful living and feeling free is all about what we have on the inside.      

Thank God for a great life! Im off to count my blessings! I felt a bit crap at the start of this blog and now I feel pretty pukka!.

Night night